Must Have Recipe To Avoid Conflicts With Your Lover: Hot Cross Buns
Time involved: 7 minutes
Ingredients: 1 comment or interchange that rubs you the wrong way
Patience
Thoughtfulness,
Restraint, and
A dash of humor
Read on to learn how to make this recipe...
Directions: After a comment or interchange with your partner that rubs you the wrong way, remove it from the heat and let it rest for 7 minutes before serving.
Often couples interpret comments, innuendos, body language and attention given or not given to something, differently. What one person sees when they enter a room is likely very different than what the other sees. What one person hears in a disagreement or moment of frustration is often different than what the other hears. What one person feels about a momentary situation is often evoking or not evoking very different feelings for the other.
A great strategy when you are about to defend, attack or even point out your frustration, annoyance or hurt is to first wait 7 minutes and second find a way to laugh. I have found that 7 minutes is a good amount of time to collect your thoughts, evaluate your feelings, ask yourself why this is important to point out and figure out your goal in articulating your thoughts. Then, if you still believe it is important to express; express it with 1) your goal in mind and 2) with a dash of humor in the end. Because after all most of what we experience in the moment is small stuff that seems even smaller the next day.
